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September 3rd, 2007 at 4:17 am

Preparation for The First Date

in: Preparation For That First Date

As promised from the last post, I’m going to discuss the first date. I’ve heard great stories, I’ve heard terrible stories, I’ve heard stories in between - bottom line - it ends with a “yes” or “no.” Granted, you may get a “I’m not sure, let me think about it” or “I need more time” or any other reason not to start dating, but 98% (don’t ask me why it’s 98%, it just sounded like a good number) of the time you’ll get one of two answers.
Well after taking the time to pray and think about it, if you still believe that you should ask the guy/girl out, go for it. Here’s a few pointers:

  • The Preparation for GUYS - My preparation for dates has ranged anywhere from putting my pants on to making sure that every hair on my head was pointing in the direction I wanted it to (the dates where I was just worried about clothes in general didn’t really go that hot). Preparation for that first date can be nerve racking - for both guys and girls. As a very traditional guy when it comes to dates, I feel that making sure the girl has a great time can be stressful. You have to figure out what you plan on doing with the girl - do you want to go to Dairy Queen or take her out on a “mystical night full of surprises”? I personally took the second route with my fiance, although I have taken the first path as well. If your going with the laid back approach, it’s a great time to not worry and just have a blast. If your going with the super-preparation, high stress approach (which most girls find endearing), make sure you plan ahead! One of the best things I did on my first date was to hide a rose in a bush at a park the afternoon before the start of our date. When we came back to the town we go to college at, I asked her to go on a walk with me where (you guessed it) I showed her the rose.

    • Prepartion can go a long way when considering what the objectives of your first date experience will be! Do you want to go to Dairy Queen or take her out on a Mystical Night of Surprises? It all depends of the situation!

    • Preparation for GIRLS - As a guy, I’m clearly not going to understand what goes on in a girl’s head the hours before (and even on) the first date. For the longest time I always thought the girl had the easiest job in the world when it comes to dating. I always assumed it was:

    (1) Take about 5 hours to get ready for a 3 hour date.

    (2) Chill out for awhile until the guy gets enough courage to actually ask you out.

    (3) After the guy sweats it out, say a one word answer.

    (4) Go home and go to bed.

    • Oh man - was I wrong! My fiance told me that while it did take her a long time to get ready for the first date, the rest was not as stereotypical. She said that it was nerve-racking months before the first date simply because “I wasn’t making a move” (girls, perhaps you can relate to this feeling of guys not getting the hint when it comes to dating).

    • Clearly I don’t know what goes into a girls “make-up routine” and frankly it doesn’t make a difference to me. If the guy truly wants to date you, he’ll date you for what’s in his heart which is exactly why you should be dating him. Before you figure out if you are going to date this guy, remember this saying:

    A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man must be seeking the Lord to find it.

    I pray that God may give you wisdom in discerning His will. It is easy? No, but we can always ask for wisdom and He will grant it (James 1:5). And remember - keep God as the focus of your relationship.

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