This is the fifth article in the series of when you should get engaged. In this post I want to talk about something that a lot of couples do that really harm them in the long run. At first, this isn’t really a problem until big decisions need to be made. They get engaged without really coming off the “super romance” stage. Simply put, they don’t really know each other like they should. This brings me to my fifth point which is:

You Should Know The Person Extremely Well!

Before you get engaged, ask yourself how well you really know that person. Do you know their favorite hobby? What about their beliefs on theological topics such as baptism or tithing? I’ve seen couples get engaged and then realize that hurrying to the altar probably wasn’t the best idea (I talk about this in the first part of this series).

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that if you don’t know their favorite hobby you aren’t ready to get married. What I am saying is that you should be able to feel confident that you know them enough to spend the rest of your life with them.

So how do you know if you are confident with them? One of the best ways that my fiancee and I feel we are confident in our relationship is that if we have a disagreement over something, we both know that neither one of us will break off the engagement. We are committed to each other and we both know that. Were the disagreements pleasant at first? Definitely not, but they showed us that we were committed to each other. I’ve seen couples get engaged that have never had a disagreement with each other. I guarantee that there will be disagreements in the future and you want to have the confidence in each other that you aren’t going anywhere.

I was just reading Matthew 19:1-11 where it talks about how much God hates divorce. Do we really want to get engaged since we feel we are ready but then figure out that we don’t really know anything about them? Bottom line, make sure that you feel confident with the person you are with and you’re well on your way to getting engaged!