Has this conversation ever happened to you?:

• Boyfriend (clearly seeing that something is wrong) - What’s wrong?
• Girlfriend - Nothing
• Boyfriend - Really? Because I know something’s wrong…
• Girlfriend - Really - I’m fine…

Every couple has this conversation at one point or another. Girls sometimes think that their boyfriend should know what’s going on and how to fix it. Sadly, God did not create the male gender to be mind readers. Can this conversation be tough? Oh yeah - but let me give you some pointers:

Girls - Don’t think that your boyfriend knows everything going on with your life. Yes, the chance that he is the cause of the problem is well over 90%, but let him in on what’s going on. If it’s something that he did, chances are he wants to know what it is so he can fix it and not make the same mistake again. If it wasn’t his fault (rare, but possible), let him know what’s going on. Chances are he’ll be a great comfort - not make it worse!

Guys - If you ever have this conversation with your girlfriend, don’t be surprised. Girls need some time to open up and to be comfortable with you (this also goes with physical stuff). They may not want to tell you what’s going on because they are afraid that you will not think it’s a big deal. The best thing you can do to help your girlfriend is to just be there with her. If she wants to talk she will. Don’t push it too hard or she definitely won’t talk - and whatever you do - don’t think it’s something stupid that she’ll just “get over.” Show her that you care and that you want to help.

I’ve seen this conversation damage couples like the Black Plague. God made men and women very different and we have to recognize that. Communication is a huge part of relationships! We are to show love to each other through our actions - not just our words:

Let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. - 1 John 3:18

Bottom line, next time you have this conversation, act out of love and not selfishness. Girls need time to open up and guys need to realize that just being there means so much to girls!