Communication - quite possibly the most important factor in a successful relationship. Why is it so important? Because communicating with each other allows us to not only learn more about our boyfriend/girlfriend, but because it also gives us an opportunity to become closer to them. If you’ve ever felt distant from your boyfriend or girlfriend (which I’m sure you have at some point or another), a great place to start getting ‘connected’ again is to have great communication with each other.
My fiancee and I just completed pre-marital counseling (I’ll definitely write about those sessions soon!), and one of the main topics that our pastor talked about was communication. It’s ESSENTIAL in a relationship! Ever felt like you just can’t connect with your boyfriend or girlfriend? If so, you may be asking how do I increase my communication with my boyfriend or girlfriend? Here are a few suggestions:
(1) Don’t be afraid to ask ‘deep questions’ - As a guy, I’m not particularly fond of these questions (my fiancee wants to have these discussions WAY more often than I do…), but I also realize that they are important in a relationship. Every once in awhile, ask your boyfriend/girlfriend: Where do you see this relationship going? Or you could even ask: “What do you think we need to work on as a couple?”
(2) Have ’small talk’ every once in awhile - I’m not going to lie - if I could have it my way, I’d communicate like this most of the time! As humans, this is how we communicate the most. For example, it’s good to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend how their day was!
(3) Make sure you communicate as a couple to God - I’ve talked about this topic extensively on this website and for good reason! God should be at the center of every dating relationship, and in order to do that you have to have constant communication with Him!
These are only three ideas that you can incorporate into your relationship. There are tons of resources out there on this topic since it is so important! Check out my recommended books page if you need some additional resources.
This is a short post, but I guarantee that I’ll be writing about this topic again (and again, and again, and again, and again, - you get the idea!)
