In today’s society, there is a TON of emphasis on outward beauty. Sadly, you only see models with less than 5% body fat because that is was society tells us is ‘perfect.’ You may be asking yourself: “If I don’t look like a model (like 99.99% of the population), can I still be considered pretty or handsome?” In short - YES!!! As Christians, we should have the same outlook on this concept as God does. God looks at the heart and not what’s on the outside!

Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart. 1 Samuel 16: 7

Guys - So what if you don’t have the muscles of an American Gladiator or like one of the guys in 300?! While most of us always want more muscle (I know I do!), that shouldn’t be our first priority! While there have been multiple reports of women being more attracted to men with muscles, true Christian women won’t care at all how much you can bench press. It means nothing to them! Instead of spending time in the gym to get huge, spend some time in God’s Word. A true Christian girl will, like God, love you for your heart - not your biceps!

Girls - While I am no means an expert on female emotions and what goes on in their head (just ask my fiancee), I have found that one of the main desires of all females is to feel beautiful. Girls LOVE it when a guy calls them beautiful or gorgeous (I’m sure that all girls reading this are agreeing with me on this point). You’ll never really encounter a girl that says: “It doesn’t really make a difference to me if I’m beautiful or not!”

So, girls, when you’re looking for someone to date, make sure that they want to date you beacuse of what is on the inside - not the outside. Too many times in society we see people get married based solely on looks and then get divorced a few years later beacuse they weren’t focusing on the right things.

Bottom line, in a true Christian relationship, your love for your boyfriend or girlfriend should be based on what is on the inside - not how we look. Don’t think that I am telling you that you don’t need to take showers or brush your teeth (I don’t want to be getting emails from people telling me you don’t have to do anything for your outward appearance!). What I am telling you is that like God, we should love each other for our personality and our relationship with Christ. Who cares if we’re not what society says is perfect? God doesn’t - and neither should we!